You are beautiful... War is a consequence of having to know someone before can love them. James B Smith

Let me take the first step, and share what I know about you:

Click to listen: Beautiful

Love first, the world is waiting for you. BE YOU!

With love,

James Smith

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 9:53 PM 0 comments

  The Trees or the Forest...

Which one are you focused on?

So, today was quite an experience.

I had the opportunity to live my life in reverse for a brief period. How long is brief in this case; approximately two hours.

Being a Toastmaster, today I was the Toastmaster, there is often a call for action. Not taking action stands out like a sore thumb, which can be a beautiful thing...;-)

Anyways, I ended up being late. If you are a Toastmaster then you will understand the signifigance of "being late."

In life learning is a constant...

Well, I had put off a few things over the course of the last several days, and those very things would come back to bite me in the rear, as the unexpected occurred.

The unexpected an extremely painful sinus headache. Add to that the nervousness of being Toastmaster and realizing my lack of planning, and you have me making several last minute trips to bathroom.

Time doesn't stop...

As I dealt with the unexpected and worked to gather myself, that is prepare, I noticed how with each glance the time just seemed to melt away.

It seemed like the minute hand was moving in 15 minute increments at a time instead of one at a time. No pressure, right, give me a break.

Responsibility, not a last minute obligation...

Moving on, my systems which I had been so effective at using each were sabotaged by my earlier decisions to "PUT-OFF."

Suddenly I found myself with hardly enough time to be effective. Moving with urgency, or was it panic, I quickly assembled my stuff bolted for the front door only to realize my keys were on my desk.

Tick, tick, tick...

I quickly grabbed my keys and bolted out the door.

The twist for today, I was responsible for picking up and driving a fellow club member to the meeting. So, not only did my "PUTTING-OFF" impact me, it was now directly impacting someone, else and the fact that being late was almost unavoidable, the whole club was now being impacted.

This is not who I want to be...

Surprisingly, with the pressure on, I don't become so frantic. I now have the ability to maintain a level of calmness. This definitely has taken some learning.

You see, what you do under pressure has everything to do with what you do when you aren't under pressure. I am constantly working on being the person I "WANT TO BE."

No more stories...I don't enjoy them...

Prior to bolting out of the front door, I set the printer on fire with several requests and sent out one urgent request to the club. Anyone available "PLEASE" print out the attached agenda.

Moving to the car I now found myself looking at a latter and a handful of tools, in the front seat. This "STINKS." Remember I driving someone to the meeting today and a latter and tools was not going to work.

Focus, the end result...

Despite everything, I still remained focused on getting to the meeting safetly and quickly.

Jumping into action I pulled the latter out and put it up. I then quickly moved the tools.

Ready to jump into the car I realized my keys, yet again, were missing. This time they were somewhere in the yard.

Moving quickly through the yard I spotted a sparkling object and yes, I found my keys.

Jumping into the car starting the engine only to look at the gas gage, which I typically keep at half-full or more, was now sitting close to empty. There wasn't enough time to fill-up without being later.

I took my chances...

I did finally pick-up my club member and arrive at the meeting. Yes, I was late.

How late, does it matter, late is late. I didn't give myself the opportunity to be a quality Toastmaster, and I didn't give the club my best because of my "PUTTING-OFF!"

For some, responsibility to others comes easily, maybe for some it comes to easily. For me, it takes effort, it is something I work at. I have things I do that support me in being effective and still it takes effort.

What did I learn...

I realized while experiencing all the little break downs that I have in fact changed many things in my life. It has been quite some time since I experienced such caos. That is a great thing to notice.

YES! I am making progress...

It is true that as you and I go through our day that we often can miss the wonderful things we do. Being busy and hurried tends to keep you or I focused on the tree, when in fact the forest has changed, for the better, because of our choices, and actions.

You impact others...

Do you realize how much?

Have an AMAZING day!

With love,

James Smith

405-521-8609

James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: In the past, these many events would have been something I shared as an excuse and I would have shared them as if they were a badge of honor.

Today they are simply a reminder that I made choices that did not support me or those I made a commitment to.

What about you? Does any of this hold true?  ¶ 7:41 PM 0 comments

  Religion vs Pride... I experience religion as a prideful experience.

Do you?

Why?

With love,

James Smith

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 10:58 PM 0 comments

  Intimacy...where does it begin? How can one person be intimate with another if they are not intimate with themself?

Do you really enjoy you?

With love,

James Smith

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 10:55 PM 0 comments

  Quote: Your journey is not...

What I am feeling and experiencing...

While I enjoy and love a good quote, I have a very strong feeling about using my own words to convey what it is that I am feeling and experiencing.

Be heard, be you...

I always encourage others to do the same. Practice, learn to say what you are feeling and experiencing. Learn to say it without using someone elses quote.

Your view and your life experience are unique. The very thing that is so special about you will never be experienced by those who are eagerly listening if all you do is quote another person.

Write a quote...

Change your life and the life of those around you. Write a new quote, one a week for the next three weeks.

Share a quote...

Share each new quote with the world around you. Let your friends and acquaintances know what you have to say.

Share your quote with me and those who are reading my blog...

BE BOLD, BE YOU!

My quote:

Your journey is not mine, your path may never cross mine, and still my life is forever changed because you exist.

By James B. Smith

With love,

James Smith

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 10:51 PM 0 comments

  The Edge...

How often are you living on the edge?

As I consider the many references, to the edge, I have experienced over my lifetime I am puzzled by a general sense of "DON'T DO IT!"

Don't Do What?

What is it they are talking about? It is as if the edge has an affinity for disaster. It that true for you? I mean, do you steer clear of the edge and do you live that way in every aspect of your life?

What is the EDGE for you?

Is there a greater learning available at the edge, or on the other side of the guard rail?

Who was it that feared the edge enough to "CREATE GUARD RAILS?"

I see the guard rail as a boundry, a warning sign on ones road to the "Point of No Return!" If such a place exist...;-)

How often do feel the EDGE is far enough?

How often do you test the EDGE?

Remember, the world was once considered flat, or was it flat until we saw it as round?

Have an AMAZING day!

With love,

James Smith

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 3:22 PM 0 comments

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Apologies...why bother?

An excuse, a lie, or a habit...

Have you ever noticed how easily people can say "I'M SORRY?" Is there any sincerity left? Seriously, how often do you really consider why your apologizing or saying thank you?

Are you on "AUTOPILOT?"

Sorry can be as automatic as "Thank You" and more often than not it has about as much feeling as unlocking the car door, sitting down, inserting the keys into the ignition, and starting the engine.

Personally, I could live without the "I'm Sorry." If you don't have the time, interest, or willingness, just move on. The same thing goes for the polite "Thank you."

Why? Tell me why?

If you really insist on apologizing be clear, share with me why your sorry. If I wasn't on top of your list, then say that. Our agreement was not as important as the thing that you chose to give priority to...wouldn't you agree?

No, that isn't the way it is...

Quick, "OH NO," what should I say. I had a good reason, at least it was for me, now how can I tell the story...?

Yes, I know I am ranting, I will stop...;-) Just do me one "HUGE FAVOR" first:

STOP! Stop telling me your stories!

Think about it for a moment. What kinda of relationship do you want with others? Even more importantly:

What kind of relationship do you want with...

YOURSELF?

If your telling white lies, stretching the truth, or lieing through your teeth, who is it your really lieing to?

Do you really believe your story or excuse matters?

It "SUCKS!" It plain sucks when you take away the stories and the excuses.

"ME," "MYSELF," and "I!"

Suddenly all that is left is "Me," "Myself," and "I!" "I" is something most people really don't want to deal with.

Change your life!

Over the next 30 days pay attention to how often you say "Thank You" or "I'm Sorry." Each time you catch yourself, in the act, ask yourself "WHY?"

Why am I saying this...?
Does it really matter that I am saying this...?
What if I didn't say "Thank You" or "I'm Sorry" in this moment?
Am I sharing why, not a story, I am either "Sorry" or "Thanking" them?

Eamples:

Your help in the last 30 minutes really made a difference in my day, thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to help me.

Consider:

Instead of waiting for a moment, that calls for an apology, to happen, be proactive. If you aren't going to show-up, be on time, or have some other change of plans, let the other person know ahead of time. Make them as important as you are making yourself.

The last minute...

It is rare that you or I have to wait until the last minute to handle a circumstance or situation. By the time we get to that point, we have given so many other things priority that it shouldn't be a surprise, least of all to you, or anyone around you.

What can you change...

...to let people know you really care?

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

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MEN are not for sale!

A married man is a happy man...HOG WASH!

It's time to fill the "VACANCY!" Have you noticed, it is so obvious, it really is.

Any guesses, come on just one, give it a try.

Porn "DOES NOT EQUAL" men!

Guys this is a wake-up call, women you need to pay attention as well.

On the Dr. Phil show, the other day, a young man and woman were discussing getting married and the man's addiction to porn.

It wasn't until she moved in with the man that she realized his addiction to the temptations of the "LUST LORDS!"

The young man really didn't see anything wrong with his habits of porn. Never mind the disconnect or the wall it created "INSTANTLY" in their relationship.

IT ISN'T REAL!

Back to the vacancy. Ok, look around, how many sites can you find that support men in a "HEALTHY WAY?"

Look around, how many sites can you find that support women in a "HEALTHY WAY?"

It doesn't take long to figure out our society is way "OUT-OF-BALANCE!" This has got to change.

Lust "DOES NOT EQUAL" attraction!

Women are on a roll, a lot of great things are starting to work, after so much effort. Having a daughter I am so thankful that she has quality female role models available to her.

She isn't locked into a certain gender biased role and I see this getting even better with time.

What about men?

Men can communicate, men do want to be connected. Men want to be heard and they want to listen.

Men want intimacy, just like a women!

In the movie, "Are We There Yet?" there was a funny line that, for me, was also quite sad.

As Nick put's on his "look of intimidation" the off duty pharmacist says something to the effect "I have been married 38 years you can't intimidate me."

Once Nick heard the comment he knew he didn't stand a chance.

Is it funny, sure. Do both men and women get it, yes. Is this really the commentary we want to echo what it's like to be married? I won't go any further, this is a whole other topic.

Marriage doesn't make a man happy, it is "COMFORTABLE!" The relationship with their wife is where the magic happens. Women, you think you should have the undivided attention of your husbands and that just isn't the case.

Men are being aggressively marketed...

...and it doesn't have anything to do with being a "GREAT HUSBAND" or a "LOVING PARTNER!"

The average man is to "NUMB" to "FEEL!"

Money and protect...that's it!

Men are not taught to use all their storage, memory and brain power, for to much more than "EARNING A LIVING" and "PROTECTING THE FAMILY!"

If your a woman and this is enough, then "STOP RIGHT HERE," go find another blog. I wouldn't wish this for any woman I could think of...

...don't wish this on any man.

There is work to do, a whole lot of work.

Where would you start?

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: If you care about this, let me know, post a comment.  ¶ 9:46 PM 0 comments

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Death, one man's perspective...

If it could be different would you really want it to be?

It's tomorrow morning, my alarm clock is trying to wake me and not a sound do I hear. No, I'm not sleeping, it's time, it's my turn to find out what is really on the other side of this awake world.

Yes, I AM DEAD!

Come on, really, it is going to happen to me, and to you. Death is the one thing we don't get to avoid.

Why does everyone want to avoid DEATH?

In the book "Tuesdays with Morrie" the author talks about how Morrie came to appreciate death and through his appreciation of death he learned to "LOVE" the life he had left to live.

Don't do this, Don't do that...WHY NOT?

Really, how often do you hear such comments. A child goes outside to play and the first words from Mom's mouth "BE CAREFUL!" Ok, Dad's do it too...;-) Why is that?

Why not say "HAVE AN INCREDIBLE ADVENTURE!"

Did you hear that, "don't do that you'll get hurt!"

I believe Evel Knievel has broken every bone in his body. He has pins and metal plates to boot.

What a life, "REALLY!" How many people do you know that would actually consider, let alone try, to jump something called the "Snake River Canyon?"

Imagine what the world would have lost if Knievel lived a life without risk, just imagine.

Death, who knows what happens after death, it really doesn't matter for those who are alive or does it?

Here is a story, I will paraphrase. The point is "HUGE" for me, I would love to know what it means for you.

A man dies, and finds himself standing in front of God. He tells God how well he lived. He was very safe and very careful in his life. Not a single broken bone, and hardly even a scratch did he experience in his lifetime.

While basking in the pride of his accomplishment, God looked at the man, a bit puzzled, and asked "how is it that you didn't find at least one thing worth taking a risk or worth dieing for?"

It is tomorrow morning, by now my wife has turned off my alarm clock.

Don't cry I say, I lived, I loved, and it wasn't perfect. Still, "IT WAS FUN!" I never quit giving life my best in each moment.

"I LOVED IT ALL!"

In the end I had a life filled with adventure, many wonderful friends, three beautiful children, a dozen grandchildren, and a friend with whom I shared what it meant to be me.

We loved, we talked, we drifted, we talked, we loved, we argued, we struggled, we loved, and WE LOVED! This friend, "MY WIFE!"

The point:

Celebrate the life lived, "HAVE A PARTY!"

Love me in death as you loved me in life. Hate me in death as you hated me in life. Let me be the same in death as I was in life.

Death doesn't change what was lived!

If you could celebrate death would you?

Are you thankful for your "LIFE?"

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 7:53 PM 0 comments

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How "FAR" would you go?

Isn't your life?

No one can live your life for you, and if all your doing is going through the motions...well let me ask you this:

Is your life worth the effort?

Steve Vaught is an amazing example of "BOLDNESS!"


Read Steve's story: The Fat Man Walking


With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: What is it that you "REALLY WANT TO DO" and are "SO AFRAID" to do?  ¶ 4:03 AM 0 comments

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My Dad?

Are you the man you want to be?

The following is a poem that I wrote during a very emotional moment. The words poored out of me as my body was shaking, and my seemingly endless flow of tears rolled down my face. It was a defining moment of truth for me.

This was the beginning of my healing. The beginning of seeing my dad through his eyes.

Being a man and what it means is "EXTREMELY IMPORTANT" for me.

What does it mean for you?
Do you feel men are really giving themselves a fair shake?

Could the MyDad™ program work?

MyDad™ is a program I have wanted to do and it is based on, at least in part, the question; how does a man, with little dad connection, turn around and be the dad he would have wanted for himself?

Picture a community of men coming together to support each other in redefining their lives.

Breaking the stereo typical model...

Breaking the stereo typical model of the "emotionless," "aggressive," "do it my way," "I am the supporter" shell of a person.

The empty shell of a man!

If your a man do you ever find yourself "looking for an answer," or "a way out" as you struggle with the sometimes "overwhelming feeling of responsibility?"

Do you ever just want to "spend time with YOUR CHILDREN?"

Have you forgotten that your wife was once a friend?

Do you ever find yourself with the sour aftertaste of being the main source of disipline?

Bottomline, as a man do you ever find yourself feeling "ABSENT" from "LIFE?"

Let me know if this is something you feel would be of value for you and the men you know. I want to give men a choice in their life!

Here is my poem, let your tears roll, tears are real and natural and the words I share are from my heart.

As a man I know I deserve so much more, and so do my sons and daughter.

Do you feel the same?

Read on:

A Separation

I speak of a bond,
Knowing in my heart it must be.
Yet,
Never will I feel this bond,
This I fear.

I am of age now,
With greater understanding.
Yet,
I know,
No matter how great my success,
My success in life,
This void can only be filled by one.

He left with words,
Words,
Words reflecting someone else's view.
Yet,
Not once,
Reflecting on what had come to past.
A colored view perhaps,
A view none the less,
One to allow him to move on,
Move on from the past.

The scars,
As if canyons were opened.
And now,
Time acts as the wind and rain,
Constantly exposing the earth,
Beneath her covered surface.
Yet,
While we could not move enough mountains,
So, as to fill these canyons,
My scars,
My pain,
Might be filled,
By the simplest of things.

A warm embrace,
Perhaps more than one.
A touch,
A touch to say I am O.K.
A look,
A look to say,
Maybe,
Just maybe,
I am the son,
The son he always wanted.

And finally,
A tear,
As if to say,
Just how much,
How much I really was missed,
And maybe even needed,
Needed at those many moments of despair.
For I know,
It is because of him,
Because of him I am here,
And to think that life could truly be,
As one alone,
Is to be a fool.

It is said,
Said that life begins,
Alone,
And that life ends,
Alone.
Yet,
Now I know,
Life is much to the contrary,
For I know,
That we could not exist without one another.

Yet,
I speak not of this,
For it is my being that cries,
My soul that weeps,
It is my soul,
My soul that can never be complete,
Without this,
The love,
The love of both him and her.

And to think,
To think I may never know,
I may never know this completeness.

Yet,
I will always love you,
I love you DAD.

By James B Smith 1991

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

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Success is Controversial!

Look around how much success do you see?

Do you want to be successful?

Are YOU?

If you had the success that you wanted what would be different?

Who would you spend more time with? Why or why not?
What would be the funnest thing you could do? Why or why not?
Would your career change? Why or why not?

Sure, there are many questions that success could have you or I ask, if we gave it enough attention. That is, if we made it a priority!

Is success a priority for you?

Take a moment to consider all the people you know. Focus on the one person who strikes you as the most successful.

Once you have a successful person in mind ask yourself these questions:

How often do you spend time with that person?
What are they doing different?
Is their success financial, spiritual, or personal?

Have you ever seen a bucket full of crabs? As one starts to climb toward the edge of the bucket, one or more of the other crabs will grab the climbing crab and pull it back down.

If I can't be successful...[fill-in the blank]!

When you do have a moment of success or maybe even start to do something different what is the typical response of those who are closest to you?

Not sure, then consider this; the next time you are with your friends and or family mention something about someone you see as very successful. Someone you would love to emulate.

Now, notice how your friends and family respond to what you shared.

Up the stakes, or raise the bar. Share with your friends or family that you want to have the same or greater success and then pay close attention to their response.

How did their responses feel; supportive or like the climbing crab as it is pulled back into the bucket?

Success, more often than not, is different and in being different you will quickly learn that most people don't "REALLY WANT" success.

If being successful means being different and being different "ISN'T GOOD" then what are the odds of you having success.

Being different is controversial!

People don't want to be the controversial, they want to talk about the controversy! People don't really want to be "DIFFERENT!" Being different will make you standout.

Does being a success mean being "ALONE?"

Have a GREAT day!

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 2:51 AM 0 comments

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YOUR LIFE!

You choose...

Ok, here is a different thought:

What would a "PERFECT DAY" be like for you?

[Beginning]

[Middle]

[Ending]

You only get to "LIVE" today, "ONE TIME."

Did you choose...the day "YOU WANTED?"

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: You will be able to experience today the rest of your life, is it an experience you will want to relive?

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Here's my props, to God!

Oh really...did I miss something?

WHATZ UP...

Hi...;-)

Don't ask me where this God thought is going..."I HAVE NO IDEA!"

How appropriate is that, wouldn't you agree?

How often do you get a sense when you're talking with someone, that "GOD" is the focus of their life and that everything is about "GOD?" I have experienced it a few times, "OK, A BUNCH."

You too...?

I often experience a "kind of aftertaste" when having such a talk. Only the aftertaste isn't sour, or bitter, it is "E-M-P-T-Y!" Something seems to be "missing" or "out-of-place."

Am I the only one that experiences this?

As the "GOD" conversation continues on I quickly realize that the emptiness is in the "WANTING" of the person I am talking with.

What is it they are wanting; love, companionship, a better job, security, fun, a little time off, and the list goes on and on.

Does the list sound familiar to you?

How does one end up with seemingly so little and that unfortunate
"E-M-P-T-Y Aftertaste?" Especially with so much talk about God!

Have you ever seen one of those "Good Guy, Bad Guy" scenes, in the movies, where the bad guy grabs one of the people close by and uses them as a shield. You know, the women, right, it is never a man...ok, I'll talk about that later....;-)

Back to the "HUMAN SHIELD." The bad guy doesn't want to get hurt. Who does?

Do you want to get hurt?

One of the SCARIEST things known to man or woman is "INTIMACY!" I mean a human-to-human, person-to-person connection.

What is the scariest thing for YOU?

I talk with so many people that simply want to share their life with another person. A person who will care as much as they do. At least until that point of "FIRST CONTACT!"

Sound familiar?

It is at the point of "FIRST CONTACT" that our protective mechanisms kick-in and quickly become an obstacle to the very thing we want.

That's right, I am suggesting that some people are using "GOD" as a "PROTECTIVE SHIELD" to avoid the risk of "FIRST CONTACT!"

Do you know anyone like this?

Seriously, don't you honor God by honoring yourself?

Does loving God mean...
...you give-up being "HUMAN?"

Over the next few days, if your up for it, try putting down your "GOD Shield" and take a risk "BE HUMAN!" Go ahead, make a mistake, look like a fool, experience your stomach as it knotts up, and then tell me "HOW GREAT" it is "WHEN THE OTHER PERSON SAYS YES?"

Be embarassed and know that those who are watching in silence, are "WISHING" they could do "WHAT YOU JUST DID!"

Consider this:

What does it "REALLY" mean to "PUT GOD FIRST?"

Have an INCREDIBLE week!

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 7:39 PM 0 comments

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I don't want to be "SUPERMAN!"

I want to be "ERIC!"

Have you ever had a child tell you who they are? Having three children I can say that "I HAVE!" It is, for me, an "AMAZING" experience. An experience that I don't ever recall experiencing with an adult.

Recently while cutting my youngest boy's hair, I went to place a towel over his shoulders and around his neck. The towel was to keep the hair from following on to his back an shoulders. He had begun to itch, and twitch, and movement isn't the most helpful thing while cutting hair.

Anyways, as I drapped the towel over my son, my wife, while taking
pictures...;-), said "look your Superman!" Her motivation, keep my son's attention and interest while I was cutting his hair.

"I AM ERIC!"

Well, my son quickly said "I don't want to be Superman, I want to be ERIC!" Yes, Eric is his name.

Eric has done this ever since I can remember. Anytime someone suggests that he is either a Super Ninja, a Power Ranger, or something similar he is quick to correct them "I am not a...I am Eric!"

This is something I want him to "KEEP WITH HIM" for the rest of his life!

What do you let "others call YOU?"

What do you "call YOURSELF?"

Are you inspired or motivated by what others call you or even what you call yourself? Think about it for a moment. If you felt about yourself like Eric feels about himself, "what would be different?"

Do you enjoy being YOU?

Have an AMAZING day!

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 10:07 AM 0 comments

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Communication Failure...
...SYSTEM OVERLOAD...in 3, 2, 1!

WARNING: To hot to handle...please step away...

By the time your feeling the heat or the discomfort it is "TO LATE!" All systems are running in over-drive.

Ok, let's rewind and take a closer look at what happened leading up to the "SYSTEM OVERLOAD!"

Let's look at some possible contributors:

Lack of Sleep, constantly in a fog because you don't get enough sleep!
Overworked, to many projects or to-dos and not enough time!
Hesitant, unfamiliar subject matter!
Threatened, someone else might be able to do it better and faster!
Assuming, you know what they're about to say and why they're saying it!

Have you experienced any of the above contributors to "SYSTEM OVERLOAD?"

Five questions you can ask yourself:

1. Do you know how much sleep is enough for you?
2. Do you ever say "NO" or ask for "HELP" or "DELEGATE" on a project?
3. How can you gain enough knowledge to remove the hesitation?
hint: collaboration
4. Can someone really do it faster and better and does that matter?
5. How could you be more effective when communicating with someone else?

In addition to the questions, consider incorporating tools that help you manage.

Stress is "BIG!" Stress is an everyday, every minute reality of life today. You can change that by learning to manage you.

In the case of stress using one good tool to help you manage can dramatically change how much stress you have in your life. I know, I use a very simple and effective exercise, and it works.

Once you have reduced "SYSTEM OVERLOAD" you will create new opportunities to experience many "MORE" of those "LIFE IS GREAT" moments!

Picture or recall a moment when you were "feeling good." You know one of those times when everything is working and going your way. Come on you know, a moment when "LIFE WAS GREAT!"

Have you got a moment in mind?

Take a minute to relive the experience. What are the images, smells, sounds, and people that come to mind? Wouldn't you like to have more experiences like that?

Managing "YOU" is your first step!

Do you still have a moment in mind? How long did it last; a month, a week, a day, an hour, or just a couple of minutes?

What was it that ended your last "LIFE IS GREAT" moment?

Answer the five questions, and find at least one effect tool for managing stress, and you will be on your way to a life that is "FREE" from "SYSTEM OVERLOAD!"

Can you imagine a life without "STRESS?"

Have an AMAZING day!

With love,

James

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PS: Take a moment to let me know what a life without stress would mean for you.

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Why God?

Surprised! That is putting it mildly...

When I started my blog, God was easily that last thing I would have considered as a subject.

So what "changed?"

As I completed my first post I realized that "God" and "spirituality" were definitely important aspects of my life and as such "how could I" talk about being "Boldly YOU" if I never shared such an important part of me.

Before now, "FEAR" was the driving factor. Afterall, there are many who flat out refuse to come even close to the subject during the course of their work. Even if it is a profound part of their life.

Not until you get one-on-one with them will they open up to such a discussion.

Also, I do not follow the mainstream. A position that can "feel very bare at times."

So, this is me "EXPOSED!"

What is the one thing you want to do, and "FEAR THE MOST?"

DO IT!

Do It NOW!

Have an AMAZING day!

With love,

James

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James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 8:20 PM 0 comments

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What I See...

An experience, a poem...

The crowds I once knew.
A blur
No more to me.
The colors
Many are there,
Little could I see.
A face
Not one I saw.

This day
Like none I have known.
So brave
Is she that dared.
Before the world
Her words
"Visible!"
"I want to be."

My eyes
Now see.
The crowd
I now know.
Their eyes
I embrace.
Their rythm
I feel.
Their colors
Now dance.

This day
Like none I have known.
Your gift
My sight.
Oh yes
How visible
You are.
In my heart
YOU
Will always be.

To you I am so grateful.

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: Don't ever forget that moment,
you are one who matters.

Live life in this way and you will
know what few have found.  ¶ 5:22 AM 0 comments

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Is God a "Purpose" or an "Excuse?"

Inspired to act or not...

Well, my focus on God continues...;-)

This is an important question, wouldn't you agree? If you are seeing God as the source of and or reason for your failures and successes, then why does it matter what you do?

Are you making "Excuses" or taking "Bold Action?"

I have met, and often, people who choose not to do the work. They say things like; I don't have to study, I don't have to rehearse, I don't have to because "God will work through me!"

If you read my earlier post then you might be guessing that this is one of those moments I tend to hear that "AWFUL" finger nails and chalkboard sound.

Have you ever known someone who claims to let God do the work?

Are you that someone?

It just seems to me that "I" have a responsibility to hold up my end of the bargin. That is to say, a relationship with God, at least for me, is not a passive thing.

Much like a relationship with another person, when you give it attention it grows, and when you neglect it it becomes difficult and strained.

Is it any different with God?

Why does this matter?

I want to live my life "ALL OUT" and I am learning to do "just that!" I want to live my life with my sense of purpose, not the purpose that every other person wants to share with or advise me to live.

My Purpose, not theirs!

They have their life, you have yours, and I have mine!

If I am not making the effort, taking the time, and making the mistakes, "YES! MAKING MISTAKES!" How will I ever live up to or even come close to my potential, could you?

It is "EASY" to be average, what do you think?

There is an interesting fact about being average. Most, a majority of the people, feel that they are "better than average!" It doesn't add up, do the math, that the majority would be "above average?"

What about you, are you "ABOVE AVERAGE?"

Well! Do you have more inspiring moments, than you do excuses?

Have an AWESOME day!

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 5:59 AM 0 comments

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Without a bible is there a God?

A loss of spiritual freedom...

Ok, there might be many more entries around God and spiritual truth (mine to be exact.)

I don't have all the answers, "DO YOU?"

I created this blog to be me, to share freely, and boldly!

To not do so, at least for me, is to say life isn't worth the effort and for me "THAT WON'T WORK!"

Not only is life worth the effort, the gold is only found when "YOU" or I "CHOOSE TO LIVE IT!"

Where do you find your gold?

Does your chest tighten-up, or you stomach knott-up, when someone reads a couple words of a single sentence from a single verse from a particular version of the bible and then proclaim their understanding of those words as devine truth and if you don't agree then "HELL" is your destiny?

It is like the sound of finger nails dragging across a chalk board for me, "I WANT TO SCREAM S-T-O-P!"

What happened to being human?

I know I am probably stepping on toes, crowding people, and you might even be looking around because you don't want to be seen reading this, let alone nodding your head "YES!" I get it!

Don't you have questions about your spiritual faith?

I DO!

If you never question what you understand or feel to be true are you really giving life, "YOUR LIFE" everything it deserves, or better yet, giving you everything "YOU DESERVE?"

Is God just a book or something "MUCH BIGGER?"

What do you think?

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: What about you; are you crushing aluminum cans or finding the gold?

PPS:
How would you rate your life?  ¶ 8:26 PM 0 comments

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Grammar...OOUCH!

Real world example...

In my last post you will find where I say "if your saying it" and this is a perfect example of a blind spot I have "your" versus "you're."

NO! I am not going to correct it, deal with it, IT'S ME!

Seriously, as I am writing I have no sense, go ahead enjoy that one, that I have made the grammatically incorrect substitution.

A little salt, a little pepper, maybe some spice, and before you know you have an interesting world...;-)

If you were a spice, WHAT SPICE WOULD YOU BE?

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com  ¶ 5:58 AM 0 comments

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STOP! It's to much to watch...

Does "MONEY" talk to you?

Ok, my inlaws say money flows in the opposite direction to life. When your young it is hard to find enough, and when your old you no longer have such a need.

My parents, they "NEVER" discussed it, I didn't have a "CLUE" about it. You know "THE MONEY!"

My mother, they were divorced, worked two jobs, often she stayed in the city to avoid the long 2 to 4 hour commute into San Francisco.

Hmmm, interestingly enough as I am typing this I realise that my work pattern looks an awful look like my mom's "NO! THIS IS INSANE!" Ok, at least I have something to work on, yeh, like there wasn't enough...already...;-)

Here's the thing, if you don't have the money you feel you "NEED" or "WANT" then there only one place you should be looking...if your not standing in front of the mirror then your way "COLD!" Like "WAY OFFBASE!"

It may feel like "rocket science," trust me it isn't!

It has everything to do with what you think and feel about money. A great book to read is The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist.

Twist talks about her many experiences with money and shares what she has learned. Powerful insights to be had.

T. Harv Eker, has a book out (I haven't read it yet...), his book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. I mention his book because it was his "SIMPLE MONEY TECHNIQUE" and my "committed action" that has changed how I manage money.

So, what does money say to you, or more importantly:

What do you say about money?

Pay attention, if your saying it, it is impacting you and those around you.

Have a GREAT day!

With love,

James

405-521-8609
James at ALifeOfPossibility dot com

PS: I will be completely my profile sometime in the next day, week, or month...get the picture...;-) Hey, I'm writing, just enjoy and share there is more coming!  ¶ 5:07 AM 0 comments